Making a bucket list?

I'm sure everyone knows about making a bucket list (a list of things we want to do before we "kick the bucket") and I'd thought about it before but never got around to it. Now we are in a situation where we really should be making a list of things to do before Tahu leaves us but I can't do it. We won't be making a bucket list. There's a bunch of things we want to do and we will be doing a lot of them in the next 1-2 years for sure but I absolutely cannot bring myself to sit down and write the things we want to do before he dies. We will do the things we want and then we will think of more things and we will try and make as many memories as we can but it won't be from making a list.

Because what happens when the list is finished? What happens if we don't finish the list? Nope a bucket list isn't something we have any desire to do.

Also the things we want to do aren't always the big tick box things you know? Sure we want to go to a football match in England and visit certain countries and all that but we also want to just have great times with the kids and laugh at stupid things. Or like the other day watching Tahu and Knox take out the bath, now that's a really special memory that I wouldn't have been able to put on the list.

I'm not sure I'm explaining properly why I feel so strongly against making a bucket list for Tahu. Maybe it's because it makes it more obvious that we are on limited time. And how do you possibly plan to fit 50 years into 5? And how do you narrow down what it is you want to do when a lot of what you want is just time together to be a family? And for your kids to remember their dad? And how do I put on my bucket list that I just want to see what Tahu will look like as an old man?